Kids paying board, yes or no

Yorkieboy70

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My 19 year old daughter recently started work as an escort for disabled children going to and from school. This is really to gain experience as she couldn't get the practical experience during her last year in college. Depending on which taxi runs she gets she earns between £400 and £500 per month. She pays £60 a month board, some of her friends say they dont have to pay anything. We have started her a pension and £30 a month goes into that. Do you think it's right that kids pay towards their keep ?
 

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Absolutely. It's the start of their financial education and a stepping stone to the responsibilities that come with independence.

Even when my son joined the army he carried on paying to cover the times he was home. But then he is my son.
 

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No, I choose to bring them into this world.
Both mine are students 16 and 19.
Both have part time jobs.
Both pay a fair amount of their earnings into an ISA, We also pay into it.
We also pay all uni rent and a weekly allowance.
How else will they be able to afford their own property and move out in the future.

My Mother made me pay a third of my salary towards the house and I still despise this.
Didnt earn much at the time and couldnt afford to do much in !ife for many years or make any savings of my own.
 

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of course they should pay something - mine did it teaches them the value of money, and when time came for them to move out they were given some good financial assistance and have been ever since.
 

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I'm still stuck at home and I don't officially pay rent instead I just contribute to bits and bobs. Just paying for the shopping here and there and other expenses. Don't know what it equates to a month probably a couple hundred quid so probably enough to cover my contribution to the food and bills. I think my parents are well aware than if they made me pay an official rent they'd never get rid of me as I don't earn enough as it is at the moment! Having to buy a new car and losing 20% of my wages for 5 months of this year has already set me back moving out by I should think at least a year. And that's after having to abandon moving out a couple years ago when I got made redundant from my old job then spent 6 months out of work before getting my current much lower paid job.
 

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Everyone situation is different so it’s up to the parents what they want to do.
If your kids are out on the drink and wasting all the coin. I would make them pay.
If they are sensible and saving or paying uni fees I would say no.
 

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If they are in full time employment I think they should. Ours did & were happy to contribute knowing full well that it would be more expensive lIving in a flat. We did put their ‘rent’ into an account & give it back to them when they moved out - but we could afford to, some folk can’t.
 

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I always had to pay from the day I started work, it was cheaper than renting......
A mate who was charged the highest of all of our group by his parents, he did moan about it, but was somewhat surprised when on his wedding day they presented every last penny back to him.
 

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I agree with @rudd though I come to it from a slightly different angle. My parents didn't 'charge' me, and I didn't 'charge' either of my Sons. Bringing up children is a responsibility that should be entered freely, not costed, and I'm grateful that my parents took that approach with me and my sister. Just as we wouldn't have dreamed of charging my parents for all the support and help I and my sister were able to give them later in life, (which involved moving back to our home town for both of us).
 

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I would say yes, even if it's a token amount. Our son went to a private school, so our outlay went down, considerably, when he went to uni. So we paid for his board. When he was at home for some time, writing up his theses for his PhD, he paid a small amount, something he volunteered to do and wasn't asked.
A friend's two adult sons both live at home, pay nothing, contribute nothing and basically take the pee.
 

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My eldest is doing an apprenticeship and doesn't earn a great deal He does pay us keep but we put it away for him, not much about £100 a month. However, we agreed on this amount as long as he put £200 a month away into a savings account.
 

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surely its down to your own choice and your relationship with your children and their circumstances. I agree that paying board is a good idea and teaches a number of things but also for me i would put it into a savings account for either them or their children in the future and especially with house prices continuing to rise.

i havnt got children yet (hoping next year will be the year) but i already have a savings account for their further education needs
 

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£5 out of the first wage packet I ever earnt went into mums hands the moment I got home with it

wasnt much to start with, £14.50 a week as a first year apprentice

it was a given, that as soon as I started full time, I paid my way, and it was the same with near everyone I knew

but then back in the day, we all knew that, nowadays we are far too soft on the kids,
 

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Yes I paid 1/3 when I was 16 in my apprenticeship. But back in 78 parents didn’t have a lot. We could buy a few extra bags of coal instead of going to wood yard for scraps and off cuts.
 

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I'd say it's a great idea and teaches financial responsibility, but i payed board from 15 and i'm still terrible with money and spend stupid amounts on luxuries like fishing :D

So depends on the person i think.

I like the idea mentioned before of paying board but saving it and giving it them back at some point, shows how saving can pay off.
 

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I agree with charging children rent once they start a proper job with real take-home pay (as opposed to part time work when in the 6th form etc.). My kids are a long way off that point yet, so my views may change by then (as hopefully will be financial position - I hope to be retired on a big fat pension).

I think it is right that they should contribute to the cost of the household if only a nominal amount if they are a working adult. I would hope to be able to save it for them, but who knows what the circumstances will be by then?
 

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Definitely. I always paid when I lived at home....even when I was on the dole for the first couple of weeks after leaving school. Our three were a mixed bag. Eldest lad & daughter were bone idle when they left school. Never worked & contributed nothing. Middle lad got a decent job and paid us every month.
Missus is still bailing out her daughter & she's 37 ffs. We foster her two kids. I'd happily shoot her if I knew I could get away with it.
 
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