The Maggotdrowner's Forum - And so the nagging begins. Sound familiar?

Her, -, "I, thought, you'd, be, home, earlier, than, this."Me, -, "What's, the, problem,, you, know, where, I've, been,, You, know, I'm, ok."Her, -, "But, you're, usually, homme, about, 6."Me, -, "I've, only, been, fishing, again, for, 4, weeks,, there's, no, pattern, to, what, I, 'usually', do., In, any, case,, I've, been, fishing, later, and, later, into, the, evenings,, so, you, must, have, known, I'd, be, home, after, sundown."Her, -, "I, just, thought, you'd, have, been, home, earlier."Me, -, "Have, you, got, the, hump?"Her, -, "No.", (Meaning, yes)Me, -, "I, think, I'd, better, go, home."Her, -, "Ok."I, go, home,, and, return, the, next, day, to, find, out, that, she, had, made, my, tea, and, then, fed, it, to, the, cat.Me, -, "Well, how, am, I, supposed, to, know, you've, made, food?, If, I, had, known,, I, would, have, come, home, earlier."Her, -, "I, just, expected, you, to, be, home, about, 6."Me, -, "Well, you, knew, I, had, my, phone,, why, didn't, you, call, me?"Her, -, "I, didn't, like, to, in, case, you, got, the, arse."Me, -, "Why, would, I, get, the, arse?"Her, -, "I, don't, know."Me, -, "I, wouldn't, have, got, the, arse, at, all."Her, -, "Well, do, you, think, I'm, in, the, wrong?"Me, -, "Do, you, think, I'm, in, the, wrong?"Her, -, "Yes., You, should, have, come, home, earlier."Me, -, "I, think, you're, in, the, wrong,, if, I, don't, know, you've, made, food, and, you, could, have, rung, at, any, time,, you've, not, really, got, much, right, to, be, in, a, mood., In, any, case, I, had, presumed, you, might, have, wanted, a, night, in, and, the, flat, to, yourself,, since, I, woke, you, up, at, 3.30am"Her, -, "So, we, both, think, each, other, is, in, the, wrong?"Me, -, "Looks, like."We, agreed, to, disagree., I, am, now, banned, from, sleeping, at, her, flat, on, Fridays, before, a, Saturday, session, do, to, me, being, like, an, overexcited, kid.Does, this, sound, familiar???">

And so the nagging begins. Sound familiar?
beebs	As most of you already know (as I have pointed out quite a bit) I started fishing again after a long time away. When I told my Girlfriend, she was fully supportive - "It's good that you have a hobby that you enjoy." It's nice that you get out in the open air." "It's great that you can sleep for all that time after a session. Makes you feel really relaxed." Last week the tide started to turn. I left the house at 4am with no watch and I forgot my mobile so I had no idea of the time. I hadn't told her where I was going because I didn't make my mind up until I got up. I returned to the car after quite a session to see her figure in the distance. Hhhmmmm? A bit strange, she doesn't come to meet me, usually. Me - "You ok, darling?" Her - "No." Me - "What's up?" Her - "Do you know what the time is?" Me - "No, you know I don't own a watch and I left my phone at your place." Her - "It's quarter to nine. I've been worrid sick. I went to the other lake and didn't see your car so I came here. When I couldn't see you I thought you'd been beaten up or something." Me - "Poo." Now I'm 6'1 and 16 stone, so people don't tend to randomly beat me up, but who am I to argue with a woman's mentality? Saturday - Left at 3.30am but took my phone with me so she wouldn't worry. Sent her a couple of texts to let her know I was ok. Had a great session and got home about 10pm. Me - "Hi babe, had a great session today!" Her - "I thought you'd be home earlier than this." Me - "What's the problem, you know where I've been, You know I'm ok." Her - "But you're usually homme about 6." Me - "I've only been fishing again for 4 weeks, there's no pattern to what I 'usually' do. In any case, I've been fishing later and later into the evenings, so you must have known I'd be home after sundown." Her - "I just thought you'd have been home earlier." Me - "Have you got the hump?" Her - "No." (Meaning yes) Me - "I think I'd better go home." Her - "Ok." I go home, and return the next day to find out that she had made my tea and then fed it to the cat. Me - "Well how am I supposed to know you've made food? If I had known, I would have come home earlier." Her - "I just expected you to be home about 6." Me - "Well you knew I had my phone, why didn't you call me?" Her - "I didn't like to in case you got the arse." Me - "Why would I get the arse?" Her - "I don't know." Me - "I wouldn't have got the arse at all." Her - "Well do you think I'm in the wrong?" Me - "Do you think I'm in the wrong?" Her - "Yes. You should have come home earlier." Me - "I think you're in the wrong, if I don't know you've made food and you could have rung at any time, you've not really got much right to be in a mood. In any case I had presumed you might have wanted a night in and the flat to yourself, since I woke you up at 3.30am" Her - "So we both think each other is in the wrong?" Me - "Looks like." We agreed to disagree. I am now banned from sleeping at her flat on Fridays before a Saturday session do to me being like an overexcited kid. Does this sound familiar???
Dave	Hi Beebs, The 'D' word is banned from the forum It all started several years ago when I bought my third run down old house and had the awesome task of rebuilding it, rewiring it, replumbing it, reroofing it, repointing it, repainting it and not to mention redecorating it - now look what you've made me do Decorating became known as the 'D' word and was subsequently banned, lol See here for more: [url="/forum/topic.asp?TOPIC_ID=388"]Click Here[/url] And I still haven't finshed it Dave, (lol)
beebs	quote: I am a girly too Hi Jane, I never meant to imply you were masculine or not ladylike in any waybut if you met my girlfriend you would understand. She makes Julian Clarey look butch. Lovely she is, but the outdoor type, I don't think so. I might just be able to tempt her if I promise to make her a fry up on the bank. The dirtiest I've ever seen her is when she's decorat1ng and then won't be seen in public until she has properly scrubbed. Not a bad thing. Well done in the competition, however, I've heard that women have an unfair advantage. That fish respond to female hormones or something like that. I am now going to get my missus to rub her hands all over my sweetcorn before I go off for a session. MODERATORS - why does the censor thingy block out decorating????
Ziptrev	Beebs, I have the same problem, My Elaine is as good as gold, but detests Fishing! Hate's maggots and worms and refuses to be anywhere near me when I am flavouring or riddling maggots! Then she comes home from work (A staff nurse at a rehabilitation ward for the Elderly Challenged!!) Used to be Geriatrics! Then, usually during tea, she tells me where her hands have been with these old people and the help they need! Give me maggots any day! With all the towels I use up that need washing, she suggested I bought a new washing machine, but I reckon theres a good 2 years of tread left on the mangle I bought as a wedding present! Cheers Trev ZiptrevShouldn't happen to a DOG!
jlw	Beebs I am a girly too I have long nails always painted and I love wearing perfume, but theres a time and a place for full make up, I never go anywhere without my mascara on if that helps. When I was in the company match the other week at Drayton res I had my nails painted and a little make up on the rest of the gang were fellas and they didnt think I would catch as it was I caught a personal best 11lb 8oz carp and some little perch total weight was 11lb 12oz. For the area I work for I came 1st and beat the men and one of them Nige he is my manager and Barry poor thing I beat him by 2oz, I came 5th overall, and the feeling I got at the weigh in all the fellas watching to see what i had caught I was so proud of my self I felt GREAT. But my hands were bright red from the ground bait and the mess under my nails and down my jeans was disgusting but the way I look at it is they wash so why worry. Oh yes and just one more point which might sound disgusting to another female is when you take a picnic you never have chance to wash your hands cos you can guarantee as soon as you start eating your float goes BUT my the sarnys taste much better than with clean hands. Sorry I had to say that. lol Jane
beebs	I should point out that I am very fortunate since my other 'alf doesn't use the internet and hasn't read any of this, yet. I am eventually going to print this out and show it to her to point out that public opinion is on my side. She'll kill me. And then have a good laugh about it.
beebs	JLW - I would love for her to catch a fish and to know how I feel when I catch one. Problem is she's a 'Girly' kind of lady. Which means no maggots, no worms, screaming when she tries to grab the fish and it starts wriggling, I hate to think what she'd do if she caught an eel! If she does come and enjoy it, it'll be sweetcorn and bread for bait, unless I bait up for her every cast. NO. A bottle of perfume in the tackle box for when things get a bit pungent. DEFINITELY no scruffy clothes, full make-up and most probably high heels. I get the feeling she's only going to come along and try it to shut me up. And she's right. If she doesn't like it, at least she'll (hopefully) get some kind of understanding of why I enjoy it and stop nagging. If she does enjoy it, we can go together on our Sunday off. Again, no more nagging and I get an extra day's fishing in. It's a win/win situation. If that doesn't work, Martin, I'm gonna use your method, get bladdered, go home and pass out before any of it starts to sink in.
martin.	hi when i used to go out drinking or fishing i used to get nagged at all the time. When i told her about it , just before i went & then when i got home, alright i did deserve it when i used to tell her that i was going for a quick drink then come back 3 or 4 days later well the pub was 150miles away where i used to live. but ive calmed down a bit in the last 21yrs. anyway ive found a way to stop her nagging 2/3rds of the time. dont sayanything untill you get back that way if you dont mention beforehand then she doesnt moan, if she doesnt see you going she cant moan, & if you call in for a few bevies on way home you dont notice the nagging. You see i still get my fishing & drinking but only a 1/3 of the nagging but by then i dont care anyway tight lines. martin. talk fishing f**k football
jlw	Hi Beebs, Well I am afraid I have to say something being a lady angler. I know alot of women do not find angling the most exciting thing on the planet but there are exceptions. In our family the role is revesrsed I am the one that goes off fishing and sometimes I take my two children hannah and kyle. My Husband who use to go now and then years ago before the children were born changed his hobby and decided that motorbikes were more his cup of tea (so to speak). lol But as for taking your partner fishing and getting them interested, well its really the same for me with my husband and my 2 children. Put her in a peg that will blank.!!!! NO NO NO thats not the way to get any interest in what you enjoy. I take my 2 to a little pool where i know they will catch fish and there faces are glowing when they hook one, on saturday they caught about 25, each, we had a total of 70 fish, they might not have been large but a fish is a fish at the end of the day. When my husband awakens from his morning nap wifey and kids are gone, WHERE........ FISHING and through inquisitiveness he started to come to the pool and watch and then when he saw us catching he insisted on having ago, of course he caught quite a few fish and went staight down and bought a whip and now we go TOGETHER. all of us as a family, we have a lovely time and take a picnic. Basically what i am saying is why not sit her in a peg where she will catch some fish and then maybe she will understand how you feel. MAYBE she wont but at least if she catches a fish you have tried to encourage a joint hobby that you can both enjoy together. I suppose being a lady who has not really experienced the thrill of landing a fish of any size, she probably thinks you sit and look at the water all day. NO DISRESPECT INTENDED. I was a little girl when i started fishing and because I caught a fish I was hooked straight away and thats the way it works for most people ( in my opinion). Because my children caught fish straight away, on a friday night they beg me to take them fishing and believe it or not the MOTORBIKE is taking second place to the fishing with my husband too. I think its great on a lovely day sitting on the bank as a couple or a family having little competitions who has the biggest fish. In fact I asked my children what they would like for xmas and bearing in mind they are 8,12 they both answered well we could do with some more fishing tackle, and the list started. As a Mum I am so proud of them both because they had the patience to listen and learn and they are getting very good, As for my husband well that can be funny, as when we are fishing he is asking me for advice which gets some funny looks from the other anglers. but they always come over and speak. FISHING i love it and i am a woman SOD THE IRONING I WANT TO GO FISHING. LOL Regards Jane
Stribbo	Hillbilly, you should have got that fishing gear you wanted and wrapped that up and gave it to her. At least when she threw it at you, you could say "Thanks very much, that's just what I wanted !!"
hillbilly	Many years ago when money was real tight Christmas came and I had no idea what to buy the better half. I'd been saving coupons out of Embassy cigs for ages to get some new fishing tackle. I decided to sacrifice my new gear and wrapped the shoebox full of coupons in pretty paper and put it under the tree. When she opened it she went ape sh!t and threw the whole lot at me in disgust. The kids thought it was hilarious. I thought it was a magnificient gesture on my part. What do you think? Hillbilly.
beebs	quote: I have to be one of the lucky ones. If it is a nice day Margaret asks me if I want to go fishing. Never complains if I am late back. Suspicious??? PS, did you hang your England flag out of the window of your house in Morriston during the World Cup? As a pledge to my adopted country, I shall be buying a woolly England hat for my forthcoming night sessions, but still keep my Welsh one for my visits home. Quote "My wife gave me an ultimatum "its me or the fishing" I've been divorced nearly ten years now!! Get plenty of fishing in though!" CLASSIC!!!!! Also, MALC - I'm still waiting for some mash.
Dave	Oh yes indeedy After a while Fishing becomes the 'Other Woman' in 'er eyes. Not because they don't trust you, but because you are spending time away from her when you could be spending the time with. It's harder when they don't understand the enjoyment and pleasure that we get from it. You do realise that you are not allowed to enjoy yourself away from her company - don't you? As time goes on and you get more involved (with fishing ), the 'Other Woman' becomes even more of an issue until it gets to break point. That is when they give up because they know they can't win. One way around it is to take her with you, make sure the forecast is for bad weather later, fish a known 'empty hole' and make the day thoroughy boring but look as though you are realy enjoying it. When you get home she'll then begin to question your sanity especially if you talk non-stop about it in the car all the way. Then the next time you go, without asking, pack her some sarnies and a flask as well, make out as though she is coming with you all along "But love you always come fishing with me " and then when she insists that she's not coming, turn it around "But why <puppy dog look required> ?", "Oh but love <look of dismay at this point>, it won't be the same without you", At this point there is the inherant danger that she might decide to come, don't panic she'll change her mind at 3.00am, lol. And then finally using extra forlorn puppy dog look, "Oh alright then, I'll go by myself, see you when I get home <add pet name here>" "In every real man there is a boy waiting to play" - Freidrich Niestche Dave
beebs	It wouldn't be so bad, but she works Saturdays and it's my day off, so I like to spend it doing what I enjoy. I see it as another day in work for her, so I spend my day off fishing. I don't tell her what to do on her days off. This isn't a 'real' moan and we had a bit of a laugh about it in the end, it just seemed to by a text book "Men don't understand women and women don't understand men." scenario. No winners, both losers. I did take her fishing the first day I went. She got bored and went home, even though I was catching fish. We've now agreed that on Saturdays, it is assumed I'll be home late and if I'm home early, then that's a bonus (unlikely). This week, I shall be fishing this evening, tomorrow evening, thursday evening, all afternoon and night Friday and all day Saturday. BLISS. I have recently taken delivery of my new Shimano rods and reels and am in tackle heaven at the moment. I suppose I'll keep the other half sweet and buy her a new kettle or something.
scouse	hi beebs been married 32years if she doe,snt understand by now she never will LOL davescouse
Trogg	The only moaning i get from Dee about my fishing trips comes in the form of...... Its unfair , i can't come with you now cos of the B'lanna & the fact when you ain't working my mum & your mum are. So all her tackle just sits in the shed waiting for her to use it again. Alan
norm	beebs stop right there i would forget about bying her a kettle .she would prob put it up your butt and the fishing gear would soon follow i when i read what you would buy her and showed my wife your post (you should have seen the face she pulled when she read the kettle bit) i would buy her a iron instead see ya later norm it isn`t the size of the tiddler that counts
peter	Dangerous ground here!!!!!! I hope nobody looks over your shoulder while you are reading this topic Peter. Make Friends,Go Maggotdrowning.
MALC	Can't see a problem with the Kettle or anything simular. Last year i got Julie a new saucepan set for her Birthday and she was very happy.......NOT But the best present i got for her birthday was a SPUD MASHER (cause she could not do mash to save her life) THAT ONE DID NOT GO DOWN WELL But at least she now does me nice mash. This Xmas she told me that she realy wanted a nice new watch so i found a £1.99 M&M one that you also got 2 packets of M&M sweets with and the kids got to eat the sweets as a bonus. Strange though thinking about it i've not seen her wear it, I'm now going to find out what she's done with it. No Beebs you stick with a usefull little gift for around the house i always do (she'll get used to it in the end) and it's cheaper. And give's you more money to spend on FISHING Malc Fish with Friends @ MaggotDrowning.com
Trogg	quote: i would buy her a iron instead see ya later norm OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO dodgy one there mate.... remember little moe & trevor from eastenders!!!!!!! I always buy Dian fishing tackle Alan Edited by - Trogg on 25 June 2002 12:38:47 AM
beebs	I have already bought her a washing machine and she does do my washing (fair play). I have already bought her the kettle as well (it was that sexy Siemens one designed by Porsche (to keep her sweet over many overseas business trips)). The trouble is, they sent her the catalogue of the rest of the range and she's set her eyes on the matching blender and toaster and the stuff in there is like a hundred quid a pop, which is a beautiful new rod, reel or part payment on a new pole. I would rather she had a dishwasher but there's no room to put it unless we kick out the cat. She already has a decent iron which she doesn't really use much, and I don't believe in ironing anyway, I reckon the creases'll fall out if you wear stuff for an hour or so. She's got enough perfume to keep a wino happy for the rest of his life. About 80 pairs of shoes and a wardrobe full of clothes that hardly ever gets worn "Because I've put on 14 grammes since I bought them and now there like 5 sizes too small". No, I think the solution is to buy her a feather duster (won't hurt too much if she hits me with it) and myself a pair of ear plugs and a crash helmet, so I can't hear her nagging and can't feel it when she's throwing plates at my head. Norm - if you're wife's not impressed by buying her a kettle, then you've been spoiling her. Malc - send me some of your missus' mash if it's that good. Trogg - like the fishing tackle idea, although if I got her a couple of baitrunners and a few pints of maggots, I feel I would need surgery on a place where I REALLY don't want surgery to have them removed. And if the've been there, I would never use them again
Newt	Beebs - you might want to play her a song the is popular with us rural types over here right now. Seems this fella had a lady friend who got tired of him fishing so much and laid down the law, "either the fishing goes away or I do". The chorus starts out "And I'm really gonna miss her". Goes on to say "The sun is shining, the fish are biting, and the world is wonderful. But tonight when I get home and she is gone, I'm really gonna miss her. I just know I'm gonna miss her." Newt Vail
toma	beebs you wimp show her who's the boss i'm going to bait up Andy
toma	phew that was a close one,, my mrs nearly saw what i said she'd have killed me, The boss in our house,, erm, better ask the mrs, the daughter and the grand-daughter, me i come last.. Beebs a question?? where is your PC,, do you get nagged for being on it??? cos i do... Just joking on my last post mate i'm going to bait up Andy
Del-J	quote: Just joking on my last post mate Andy Andy thats not what you told me mate. Del. Not fishing? Then talk to your friends on MDs.
beebs	quote: Beebs a question?? where is your PC,, do you get nagged for being on it??? cos i do... I have an odd set up. I practically live at my girlfriend's flat, but rent a bedsit. The pc is there, along with my fishing tackle. I have a pc at my desk in work where I send all my stuff in from (I know I should be working!), so I hardly ever use my pc at home due to getting my fill during work. I did show her who's boss once, but she's a purple belt in karate, just about to try for her brown belt. When I finally came around I apologised profusely and washed the dishes for a month.
toma	beebs this is what a heavy fry pan does to youe eye{LoL}thats what happens to me when i stand up for myself against my mrs... Your original post,, well mate i do get some earache, but most of the time my mrs is as good as gold, she used to ask me WHAT TIME WILL YOU BE IN,, dont know,, if i'm getting fish i'll be late.No fish i'll be early. On the latter,, one more cast,, just another cast, oh s*d just another, was i early,, erm,,,, no. Now she just see's me when i come in.. BTW welcome back to fishing mate i'm going to bait up Andy
Geoff P	I have to be one of the lucky ones. If it is a nice day Margaret asks me if I want to go fishing. Never complains if I am late back. What has always bothered me is the fact that when I look back at the kitchen window she has placed a packet of OMO in there. I don't know why she buys that because we normally use tablets. Geoff RSSG member - are you? Clean Banks Campaign member
teepee	LoL Geoff. quote: I don't know why she buys that because we normally use tablets. I dont think a bottle of aspirin in the window would have the same effect somehow! teepee.
Simon R	My wife gave me an ultimatum "its me or the fishing" I've been divorced nearly ten years now!! Get plenty of fishing in though! Simon